In my teens, I saw my mom as someone I could talk to about school, friends, fashion, beauty, health, etc. I admired her knowledge of all things because she seemed to have the answers to all my questions. There was one topic though that I realized now, was something that felt awkward to even ask: sex.
My mom did not teach me about sex. Everything I learned about sex was from movies, magazine articles or books, and the occasional discussion with friends. I felt uncomfortable asking about it. Maybe it was a cultural or even a religious thing not to talk openly about intimate things. The biology and anatomy of sex were taught in school. That part was not difficult to understand. Boys have penises; girls have vaginas. Sperm plus egg equals baby. The how-to was the taboo.
With the influx of information from various sources, I think it would be better if moms taught sex to their older children using the right approach. According to cdc.gov, “Talking with teens about sex-related topics, including healthy relationships and the prevention of HIV, other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and pregnancy, is a positive parenting practice that has been widely researched.” Openly discussing intimacy and protection with their parents helped them make decisions about sex. Many feel more comfortable and closer to their parents after this.
Most moms may find the right approach or timing to discuss about sex. What is important to note is that the sex talk is not a one time conversation. It is suggested that moms find discussion points to connect to sexual matters. For instance, a movie that the two of you watched can start a conversation about relationships and then lead to intimacy. Eden Pontz of parentandteen.com, says that moms “…need to teach them to appreciate the bodies they have been given, to be sure they understand what their bodies can do and how to keep them healthy.” Do not force anything, especially if they are not ready or seem uninterested in the topic. Moms have to take cues from their teen children and gauge whether they are curious about it or are not mentally ready for such a discussion.
Moms teaching their teen children about sex will definitely see that their relationship will be more trusting and open. Moms will feel assured that they have taught them well and that they know what is best for them.
