The Sibling Rivalry

So today Frankie wails that ‘pain cry’, that noise that hits the bottom of your spine. You drop whatever is in your hand and proceed like Usain Bolt to comfort, to nurture, to investigate what the happened. You find your eldest jump back in fear, muttering ‘I dunno, I was just giving him his soother’. At this moment, I now know to check for marks, bumps, scratches or teeth marks. Yes you read it right, teeth marks. Why you ask? Because Kayla is jealous of her baby brother, the sibling rivalry has landed.

Kayla was one of the first people to meet Frankie, this was important to me. Frankie was supposed to be Katie. Katie was the name Kayla chose for the baby in mammy’s belly. To some extent Kayla did not like Katie. She was the one preventing mammy from jumping on the trampoline. She was the one who made mammy tired and sleep all the time. She was the one who made mammy a hormonal raving lunatic. Everybody assumed I knew the sex, a girl obviously. Kayla would point at bump and announce mammies having a baby, her name is Katie.

In matter of fact, Katie was a boy. Me and my girl-friends were super sneaky at a re-date scan and told no one, not even Dadog. We shopped blue on the sly, stashing in random no go areas around the house. My friend Sue also had an imaginary cousin who just had popped a boy that weekend to be exact. I cannot remember if we named this baby. Anyways we bought him a lot, he was spoilt.

As any mam would, I tried to prepare Kayla. She was having none of it. She already has a brother, why would she need two, she would reassure me. Her father and I are separated and he had a beautiful little boy Charlie last year
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I explained to Kayla about the approaching birth, I got animated books in the library, the arrival of siblings, the big sister, how to help mammy. I encouraged her to feel baby kick, talk and sing to my bump. I had never ending headaches with the amount of times she sang ‘twinkle-twinkle’ into the micro-phone (my belly button). Katie would summer sault to the sound of her voice. As my belly grew, I involved Kayla with everything. Getting my hospital bag ready, putting the crib together and even brought her along to my combined G.P visits.

Unfortunately I had a few complications, I have thrombocytopenia. I hemorrhaged which led to a couple over-night stays in hospital. Kayla did not like when Katie did this to me. Kayla did not like the idea I was not at home with her. Kayla started to resent Katie.

Then one day in March, two -weeks early Katie became Frankie. Kayla was excited to come see me and her new brother. She had a cuddle but we knew she was disappointed. She suggested swapping him with a mammy in my ward.

I became an over protective mummy, I snapped be gentle, whispered be quiet, pulled her away from hanging over the moses-basket as she almost knocks it down. She accepted her new sibling. She helped with all the nappy changes, picked out his outfit for the day and helped make bottles.

Kayla was involved in everything so I’m rather shocked when she ha sudden bursts of aggression. Frankie clearly did nothing to physically hurt her, emotionally she was broken. She did not deny his existence. She enjoyed the special attention from visitors. She enjoyed having mammy home all day, every day. But unfortunately I could see cracks and slight resentment creeping in. Frankie got to sleep in my room. Frankie got lots cuddles. Kayla did not have my full attention anymore. Kayla was no longer my only baby.

Naturally I tried spending extra one-on-one time with her. We made jig-saws, watched girly movies and went through photo albums of her as a baby and toddler. I let her unwrap any present Frankie got. Kayla is spoilt rotten and everyone dotes on her, I think she got more presents than Frankie in his first week.

Then one day, I left her to mind Frankie, for two minutes, while I went upstairs to get a blanket.  I thought I could trust her. Whatever she did to him, it hurt. I never heard a scream like it from a baby in all my life. He was six-pounds in weight, not an ounce of fat to be seen. She tried to reassure me ‘he just started crying’ until I exhausted all options and checked his nappy. There it was, a red raw mark on his thigh. The fury, the angry, the utter disbelief raged through my body. I almost wanted to hold her down and do what she did to him. I wanted her to feel the pain she occurred to Frankie. I obviously could not do that, so I asked what really happened.

I encouraged her to tell me how she felt. I gave her as much attention as I possibly could. I involved her with every aspect of bringing Frankie home, to helping out, naming and even bathing in the first few weeks. She had a hidden streak of jealousy that only arose when left alone with my little man.

Just as I thought she was adjusting, learning to trust her again. Boom, like a happy slap to the face – she bit him, in the arm this time. The cry melted my heart. The incident melted my brain. Why would she do such a thing?

At this stage Frankie is smiling, cooing even sharing a bath with her. She just gets these sudden urges of being in control and hurts him, for no reason, whatsoever. When I’m feeding Frankie, I feel she is trying to hijack all my attention. Don’t get me wrong, this has only happened three-times, although once is enough. She just gets these sudden urges to hurt him. Whether it is attention seeking, power or sudden outbursts of jealousy I shall not be leaving her alone with Frankie until I can trust her behavior has changed. It’s an unfortunate fact of life, the sibling rivalry has landed.

Frankie's First Spoon Feed

Weaning Frankie

Some were along the past sixteen-weeks I lost a week of Frankie’s life. I’ve been telling everyone he was only fifteen weeks old over the past few days. It can only be ‘baby-brain’, it is excusably forgivable.

So Frankie turned sixteen-weeks yesterday and with him waking for night feeds the past couple of nights for a full bottle and gulping eight seven-ounce-bottles a day. I decided to start weaning him onto food. It is highly recommended to wait until after seventeen weeks to start spoon feeding. Although the exact time for introduction will depend on your baby.

I chose a time he was not too hungry to introduce him to spoon feeds. Trying to find the right consistency as first foods should be smooth thin puree without any lumps was pretty straight forward. I added water to Odlums Organic Porridge Oats, cooked it on the stove then blended it with my hand blender in a cup. Some foods may need to be sieved to remove lumps or fibrous parts. You can use expressed breast milk or formula to make up feeds too.

A lot of people have been questioning why I chose porridge oats instead of the usual prepacked baby rice, so here’s why: Baby rice is bland,tasteless, yet it’s sweet. This may influence babies later food choices, they are high in sugar and are highly refined, stripped of most – if not all nutrients during the processing stage. It’s then fortified with synthetic vitamins and they cost a fortune compared to a large bag of oats.

With preparation for introducing spoon feeds underway, I added the puree to my Squirt. A baby food dispensing spoon for convenient one handed feeding that I purchased from the from The Goodie Gallery. I propped Frankie up in his bouncer, with a large cushion behind to support him as I hadn’t purchased a high chair at that time.

His first spoon was hilarious. I slowly introduced the spoon to his mouth, allowing him to suckle from it. The facial expressions were priceless. One minute he was horrified, he gagged and next he smiled (when he thought his ordeal was over).

All babies gag when their weaning. I remember panicking on Kayla, this time I knew what to expect. It can be a scary experience for some first time mums watching your child gag. It can almost look and feel like their choking but this is completely normal for babies as they adjust and learn how to swallow. Babies need time to learn how to swallow food. Frankie spat out his first few spoonfuls a couple of times, but this does not mean he doesn’t like it. He is just getting used to spoon feeding. Babies may reject new tastes and textures initially, it will take several tastes before a baby will accept new flavours. Always retry any foods that baby refuses.

 There are many suggested ‘Stage 1’ foods suitable to be introduced during the weaning process. Pureed vegetable like carrot, sweet potato, spinach and turnip are perfect. The more flavours you experiment with from a younger age, there is less chance of a fussy eater in later years. Peeled and pureed fruits such as mango, avocado, plum and apples are great weaning foods too. Eggs, fish, chicken and meat can be introduced once they are well cooked. Avoid stock cubes, gravy’s and jars of sauces as they have high sodium content. Try avoid adding salt to any of babies dishes too. Some baby companies do organic stock cubes so keep an eye out when doing your weekly grocery shop.

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I will keep you updated on how we get on as I begin to introduce more foods over the next few weeks.

 

Non-Medicated Teething Solutions

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30 Things I Would Tell My Best Friend About Having A Baby

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MikaB Teething Jewellery Review

Mika B Teething Necklace

The Company
Mikab teething jewellery is a family business. Inspired by their own daughter Marlenka, Dominika and her husband Szymon set up their business. The jewellery was created ‘for mums with babies in mind’.

The Products
In vibrant colors you will find teething bangles suitable from birth at a very reasonable €9.50. Pendant necklaces costing €12.50 in various different shapes and sixteen beautiful ribboned necklaces, my personal favorite at €16.50 a piece.
Made of non-toxic, food grade silicone. It is the same kind of silicon you will find in baby soothers and baby bottle nipples. They come with a breakaway clasp for extra safety and comfort. Mikab teething jewellery complies with very rigorous EN71 toys safety standard. Dominika recommends you throw it away if you see any signs of damage or wear and tear. Also it’s recommended that MikaB teething pendants and necklaces are not toys so never leave them baby unattended with it. All teething jewellery can be washed with soap and warm water.

The Review
I received my modern and on trend purple ribboned necklace almost seven weeks ago now and as Frankie was so small, we have only been able to use it more recently. He just woke up one day and started chewing his little hands. Perfect timing to get my new purple teething charm to work.

At first I thought the big silicone beads were quiet large and he may struggle to munch and chew on them. I was proven wrong straight away, he was absolutely loving it. Pulling and tugging, chewing to his hearts content.
I will try anything to help Frankie get through his teething pains and prefer natural remedies unless absolutely necessary. He looks so violent when chewing on the necklace, almost abusing it, its so funny to watch. It’s also quick entertainment when out and about. It will entertain baby whilst out having a coffee with friends.

I’m now a huge fan of Mikab teething jewellery and recommend their jewellery to anyone with a little teething monster. For more information on these products visit www.mikabteethingjewellery.ie.

*This product was sent to me for reviewing purposes. Opinions are my own.

Decoding your Babies Cries

I read somewhere that most mothers are able to tell what their babies want by the sound of their cries. We understand the difference of a hungry and pain cry. The first time I heard Frankie’s ‘pain’ cry I got really worried and we ended up in hospital that night (see Frankie got a Freddie). I’ve been listening to his cries and done some research to try understand the difference in babies cries. Decoding their cries can help ease both mummy and baby frustration at such a helpless age.

The Hungry Cry (or thirst)
This is probably the first thing you think of when your baby cries. It’s a repetitive cry and just gets louder and louder. It eventually turns frantic. This cry tends to sounds like ‘Neeeh’ it comes from the suckling reflux.
Some other signs of hunger is smacking of the lips, putting hands in their mouth, pushing head from left to right in a swift fast movement. If they put their tongue to the top of the mouth, it’s more than likely that they want a feed.

The Wind Cry
Shortly after eating if your baby lets out piercing or intense cries they may have tummy pain. If they draw up their legs or are visibly uncomfortable when you lay them on their back. The cry ‘Ehhh’ is the reflex sounds usually associated when they are trying to push wind from their belly.
The usual repeated back-rubs and gentle smacks, holding babies back and chin up straight usually do the trick and bring relief to baby. Infacol and Gripe-water are some mummy favourites to help relieve trapped wind also.

The Tired & Overstimulated Cry
This is when your baby’s cry is inconsistent and it may alternate between laughter and fussing. Your babies crying can be fairly soft, and it starts and stops. You may be able to soothe your baby, but eventually the crying intensifies. The yawn reflex normally sound like ‘Owwwh’
Babies grow so much in the first few months. Even though it looks like they don’t do much other than goo and gaah, their growing each and everyday and that can leave the body exhausted. Some days they may need more sleep than others.

The Constipation Cry
It’s hard angry like grunting cry, sound like ‘Ehhair’. Baby may need to have a bowel movement or have intestinal gas. Stimulating the rectum, cycling the legs and pushing them up can help ease and relieve some pain. Some people tend to feed brown sugar and water to help quicken bowel movement also.

The Pain Cry (Sick)
This is the cry every mothers worst nightmare. Your baby’s cry sounds unusual, its different from any of the regular cries you’re used to hearing. If you have tried all of the above I would check babies temperature and seek advice from your G.P.

The Colic Cry
Babies who tend to cry for more than three hours a day, for three or more days a week, chances are baby is colicky. It is described as an constant excessive cry in an otherwise healthy baby. Your babies belly tends to be enlarged or swollen, they can pass wind as they cry and are sometimes inconsolable at a particular time of the day like the late afternoon or evening. Also seek medical advice, babies formula may need changing.

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It’s a tough thing for both you and your baby to go through. Ask for help from friends or relatives. Remember babies can sense frustration and it’s absolutely perfectly normal to put your baby down in a safe place and walk away for a few minutes to get a break.

 

Beach Hack | Talcum Powder and the Sand

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UV-Buddy Bracelet Review

UV-Buddy.com

UV-Buddy.com is a small family run business based in the United Kingdom. Husband and wife James and Gemma decided to act on their concerns of prolonged exposure in the sun and the very harmful effects that ultraviolet light can have on your skin. They then decided to produce accessories that would help raise awareness and provide people with guidance to stay safe in the sun.

The Product
All of the products featured on UV-Buddy.com are state of the art color changing beads. Each of the beads have different pigments that change color and depending on the pigment added to each bead, colors will vary under UV light. Each bead works 50,000 times before the pigment is lost and will no longer respond to ultraviolet light.
UV-Buddy have a great range of products at very reasonable prices. School bag charms, phone accessories, bracelets, necklaces and more. There is something to suit everyone who would like to be aware of when to protect their skin.

What Are UV Rays?
UVA rays can cause premature aging and wrinkling of your skin. UVA rays can contribute to more serious skin conditions and skin cancer, such as melanoma. Melanoma, the most dangerous form of skin cancer and  is believed to be also associated with severe UVB sunburns.  And finally UVC rays are the most dangerous, but luckily these rays are blocked by the ozone layer and as very rarely reach the earth.

The Review
I received two colorful UV-Buddy bracelets over a month ago, one for myself and one Kayla. Kayla’s has a very cute teddy bear on hers and both had a UV-Buddy charm.

We popped our bracelets on and excitingly headed for the back garden when suddenly our bracelets started to glow. Confused as it was a very cloudy day, I though maybe there not working properly. I then read the information leaflet that came along with the bracelet and I was astonished to find out ultraviolet light can still shine through the clouds.

Previous to receiving our bracelets, only if it had been sunny or there has been a good weather prediction, I would lather Kayla up in factor 50 before getting dressed. Like some mammies, if it’s raining, cloudy or windy you wouldn’t expect the UV rays to be strong so I wouldn’t bother.
So then I decided to leave my bracelet on the window ledge at night and as crazy as it sounds some days it glowed and others a little dimmer of light shined from it, proving the ultraviolet light could damage her skin if I didn’t protect it.

We now have a routine before breakfast to check our bracelets before getting dressed so we can decide how we will protect our skin from the harmful UV rays that day. These bracelets should be in every school, creche and home. It’s so important that we teach our children to protect their skin at a very vulnerable age. I would recommend UV-Buddy to EVERYONE!

I received two uv-buddies for reviewing purposes, all opinions as always are my own!

Frankie gets a Freddie

 Last week we ended up in Tallaght hospital with 10 week old Frankie. We had a great day when suddenly, late in the afternoon, he started feeling very warm and sweaty but he had no temperature. Shortly after he refused bottles, his nappies became dry and he became very irritable. Initially I though he was constipated even though he had pooped that morning. Massaging his belly, cycling his legs round, trying him with some water but to no avail. He seemed in a lot of discomfort at first but soon that dreaded ‘pain cry‘ burst out. My heart was broken. So I rang the hospital and they recommended we bring him in immediately.
It was a stressful night, and that was before I put the phone down. I ran towards the car, forgetting that I had lent mine out earlier that night. We had to find a sitter for Kayla, who hadn’t a clue what was going on. I then prepared a bag for the possibility over an over-night stay. In the middle of all this, I remembered Kayla had squeezed Frankie earlier that morning. Had she pushed in his fontanelles? Had she squeezed him so hard and broke a rib? The things going through my head would give any new mommy nightmares. We arrived after what felt like an hour.
We saw the triage nurse straight away and we were ushered into a cubicle. The nurse now asked for a urine sample. I wanted to scream out “are you for real? He’s had a dry nappy for 8 hours now!!” – Luckily for her I refrained. We got one shortly after, with the results coming back with higher than normal white cells. I don’t know about you, but with high or abnormal white cells you think the worst.  Soon after, a Freddie was inserted into his tiny little hand. Having thrombocytopenia, I’m not one bit squeamish with needles. (although I have issues with the B.C.G, that one bloody well hurts tiny newborns, they need to invent an oral solution or something.) They took a blood sample, sent it off to the lab and put him on an IV drip as he was becoming very dehydrated. 
Screaming,and clearly in a lot of pain and discomfort, the doctor did a full body examination only to find his foreskin was very tight and he immediately rang for a surgeon to come down. I googled the life out of my phone and came to the conclusion he might need a circumcision, a very common procedure nowadays. I can totally live with that.
We were transferred up to a ward, still attached to an IV. He had finally stopped crying, and had a wet nappy. Forty-five minuets after putting my head to the rock solid mattress, another doctor came around to declare he had a viral infection of the ears, nose and throat. She came to this conclusion as his throat was a little red. (Of course it’s going to be red after 4 hours of screaming every ten minutes!!) Me half asleep couldn’t even determine who was in the room never mind clearly register what the doctor had been saying.
A couple of hours later I wasn’t sure if the doctor had really been, so I marched up-to the nurses station to figure out if I’d be dreaming or not. I had no recollection of her opening his nappy, looking at his trunk or even picking him up. I questioned if the surgeon had been whilst I was snoozing. By the look of the nurses face she hadn’t a clue what I was talking about.
I demanded another doctor come down to do a full body examination. As far as I was concerned I was waiting on a surgeon. Again, this doctors diagnosis was a viral infection. A few hours later Frankie started downing his 3-4 hourly, 5 oz feeds. The only proof of his horrid ordeal is the little bruise where his Freddie was inserted. 
Like most other parents, I believe a ‘viral infection’ is another word for ‘i haven’t a clue what’s wrong with him’. I didn’t have a great experience with the doctors this time in my local hospital. I left feeling that they had thought I overreacted rushing him in for not drinking his bottles. I couldn’t care less what they think and we decided we were going for a second opinion about his little manhood as the very first doctor was very concerned.
We brought him to our local G.P and he was astonished at the fact the doctor was originally concerned about his penis. It exactly how it should be. He made us giggle saying he’d ‘love to give that doctor a slap’. If that not enough to calm my nerves nothing will.
I just wished through this little ordeal that he could talk and tell us what was wrong with him like any parent would. Wished their life away. It’s horrible knowing something is wrong and you just don’t know what it is and have to go to hospitals, G.P’s etc. to find out. 
It’s a week now and he is still perfect in every way. Hopefully no more hospital visits for a long long time.
As for me… I’ve eventually got my cast off and started physiotherapy, but unfortunately three days later split my head open. I’m on the mend with four staples and some Tylex. Maternity Leave is certainly not serving me well. Lets hope that’s the last of the hospital visits ehh…
Until our next adventure
Kellie x

Waterwipes Sensitive Make-Up Removal -Review

I recently received a 3 month supply of WaterWipes and Sensitive Make-Up Removal wipes to review. I have been using the sensitive facial wipes for 3 weeks now. I’m really impressed, they are pretty awesome!! I do not have time to cleanse, tone and moisturize every morning or night, if i did I’m pretty sure I’d be a beauty blogger. I rarely get a chance to put makeup on too so these wipes came in handy and my skin is genuinely feeling refreshed and clear.

The Company

Water wipes are an award winning company, with their products manufactured right here in Ireland by Irish Breeze which is based in Drogheda. Not only are you indulging in the latest beauty product you are also contributing to Irish jobs.

The Product

UK allergy approved ‘The Worlds Purest Wet Wipe’ are unique compared to most facial wipes on the market. They are preservative, fragrance, paraben, alcohol, benzoates, phthalates and triclosan free. Sensitive facial wipes are 100% natural, with 99.9% purified water, 0.1% citrus grapefruit seed extract and dead sea minerals.

These wipes are aimed at people with extremely sensitive skin, as we all know most facial wet wipes on the market can sting and dehydrate the skin and are generally not that effective at removing our make-up.

The Review

So I have skipped my usual double cleanse routine as I’ve been super impressed with these wipes. I never use facial wipes as I find most wipes on the market sting my eyes, dehydrate my skin and you need about ten wipes to effectively remove your make-up.

Ultra-mild, non-irritating, thicker and stronger than your average face wipe. These soft absorbent wipes leave no oily residue, just a clean and fresh feeling. Suitable for daily use, these natural wipes are free from chemical preservatives and other hard ingredients that you would find in other facial wipes. They left my skin soft to touch, clean and hydrated.

Sensitive make-up removal wipes are available in Dunnes Stores, Tesco’s and McCabes Pharmacy.

All opinion my own