We were blessed with Frankie. Naptime and bedtime he is an angel, excluding the clock change, that did throw him off but last night it was business as usual. I mention his bop-bop, num-nums or teddy and he’s thundering up the stairs – waving bye-bye, blowing kisses, the lot. We don’t see him till morning. Again, we are blessed.
Then there’s Kayla, the bed hopper. In, out, up and down. She’s never tired. She likes to plays us, she’s thirsty, hungry, wants ‘just one more book’. She’s even resorted to telling us her daddy lays with her till she’s asleep. Bullshit. Any ways she sleeps pretty well, she can be found in the end of our bed most mornings somewhere across Joe’s feet or curled in a ball on my side.
We had all intentions of moving Kadie into Kayla’s room this midterm, it’s not happening. We had notions of her sleeping through the night like Frankie from six months, again notions.
Kadie has never slept through the night. In fact I don’t think she has slept more than four hours EVER. And we’ve tried it all…
We’ve fed her before bedtime.
We’ve fed her an hour before bedtime.
We’ve fed her two hours before bedtime.
We’ve given her a dreamfeed.
I’ve kicked Joe out of the room.
We’ve tried grow bags to confirm she’s not cold.
We’ve played white noise music.
I’ve tried dim light, bright light, no light.
We’ve given her baths before bed.
We’ve kept to a solid routine.
We’ve taken turns.
We’ve put her down drowsy but still awake.
We’ve avoided rocking and cradling.
We’ve rocked and cradled.
We’ve tried both with and without soother.
We’ve cut out a day time nap in hope she sleep better, that was the worst night of my life.
I’ve tried baby massage.
I’ve put her into our bed.
We’ve let her sleep in her cot.
We changed her nappy a million times over.
We’ve given her a comforter (the sock has gone, it’s now a pillow case!).
One thing I have not tried is the cry it out technique. I don’t jump to her aid with every sound but I won’t let her cry-cry either. It’s just not for us. I did it with Kayla over five years ago on my mothers recommendations and it still haunts me. In any ways she’d have the house awake with the screech.
It’s very disheartening with everyone constantly asking ‘is she sleeping through the night‘. Throwing out tips and what’s worked for them. It doesn’t work for us. Everyone keeps saying we need to get her out of our room. That’s all well and good if we were in a bigger house but Kadie will be sharing with her big sister and it’s unfair in her to dump the waker-upper in with her so we can catch some Zzzz. It’s not gonna solve the sleep situation, if anything it will give Kayla a broken sleep and then not only will I have to deal with a shit nights sleep but a cranky six-year-old too. No thanks.
I think the worst part is the smiling and cooing, the rolling and clapping hands. Some say I should enjoy the ‘extra’ time I get with her throughout the night. She’s lucky I haven’t thrown her out the window* with her ‘I’m not sleeping tonight’ smiles.
I’m facing facts, my third born is not a sleeper. She wakes anything from three to ten times a night. She will start sleeping through the night when she’s good and ready, I’m finished with all the tips and tricks. Maybe the gods will pity me with this blog post and she’ll sleep for more than two hours tonight. That would be nice. Roll on the weekend, ’cause I bagsy a lie-on.
*I would not throw my baby or any kids out the window. I can’t deny I wouldn’t throw Joe out of it though.